Letting go of loved one to set you both free

Letting go of a significant other can be one of the greatest challenges in our human experience. The person that once was your world, that you built a life and dreams of a future with, that you let in and loved with a deep open heart. Whether it’s been 6 months or 20 years, a profound bond between two beings who open up to eachother and allow them into the deepest core, creates a tie quite difficult to undo. The withdrawal symptoms can be pretty brutal, there’s no doubt. We feel like we’re losing a part of ourselves, like a limb is getting ripped off of us. But if life is taking you in the direction of separating from them, it is for a reason. And it is crucial to follow that hint life is pointing you at, no matter how difficult, in order to break free to the next chapter life has in store for you!

Like an addict on withdrawal of his substance, the first couple of days are a living nightmare, feeling like afloat in the high sea, at the mercy of every wave crash and storm coming your way. As days pass, the sea starts to settle a little, you can finally see the shore from a distance. You have a sense of knowing that you will make it if you only push through until you reach the shore safe and sound.

Trust that life’s got your back, no matter what. If it’s pushing you in that direction and you are wise and brave enough to listen, you won’t be let down. Something better is patiently waiting for you on the other side. That’s guaranteed! Trust blindly if its the last thing you do. Believe in your intuition, in the little voice whispering softly that it’s okay, you’re on the right path, just hold on tight.

As with any withdrawal, there are moments of setback. Where doubt creeps in and all you wanna do is give up, give in to the temptation. The strong pull, the desire to connect, to merge, to be with them, to simply talk to them .. You get temporary amnesia of the original reason of the separation, you can only remember the good moments, which adds to the pain.

But if you just remember that complete disconnection is needed temporarily to heal and move on, that giving in to the temptation will only make you suffer more on the long run, and know it’s just a distraction from the process that gives you the illusion that it feels right. And it does feel amazing in the moment of re-connection, it's magical ! All the reasons to separate just vanish and the magic of the fusion overrides everything. But it’s tricky .. and next thing you know you are back to ground zero, having to start all over again.

It might not feel like it in the moment, but it is easier to let go in complete disconnection than having them there or trying to stay in contact. That can be excruciating ! I’d rather (or convince myself it is wiser to) completely let go and meltdown, face everything that needs to come up, than stay afloat while hanging on to a thread. A thread of hope. A thread of languishing despair. Holding on to a distant shadow of what used to be. The distance is needed to let go and set yourself free !

You are making yourself and the world a huge disfavor by keeping them from the light and power of your free Soul. So make yourself a gift and allow yourself to go through the pain, feel every motion, every wave, so you can transcend it and set out to become that strong, whole, bold, un-shatterable, free version of yourself. Then nothing will ever stop you! Once you break through that glass ceiling holding you down, you fly!